“Comparison is the thief of joy”
I’m not exactly sure who said that quote but I hear it a lot in my social media business groups. I’m constantly reminded that everyone is in a different part of their journey so I shouldn’t compare one person’s success to mine. It’s great advice but I have a confession for you…
I do feel jealousy sometimes. Most will not admit it but I will, and I know it’s wrong to feel that way, but sometimes it’s a punch in the gut to see someone successfully living that life I dream of, and not feel a pang of jealousy.
A quick back story: I just recently returned to work full-time after being a stay-at-home mom for a year and a half and running my own small business from home. I needed an income that a struggling small business didn’t offer.
What is my dream life?: I want to be a work-from-home mom. I want to run my own business while being that mom that’s always there to take my son to his weekly speech therapy sessions. To be that mom that gets to take him to school and feel heartbroken when I drop him off and he cries, and then be there to see his big smile of excitement when I pick him up 2.5 hours later. To be home to take care of him when he is sick. To take fun day trips to the zoo when it is not crowded so we can feed the giraffes. To just be that “mom boss” that rocks her business and never has to worry about paying the bills.
Let me say it again for those in the back…Comparison is the thief of joy!
While I could have been spending the time I did have with my son, I was thinking about working my business so I could get to that “dream life” I craved for so much. While I was comparing my current journey in life to someone else’s current journey in life I was destroying my happiness.
I recently decided to LET THAT SH*T GO! Because if I didn’t, I would spend what should be the happiest moments of my life watching my 2-year-old son grow up and I would be stuck in this self-loathing that was unnecessary. And GUESS WHAT? I realized that my son didn’t care if I was home with him all day or only in the evenings after work. He was happy to have me, his mother, as I was.
So, if you see someone’s “picture perfect” photo on social media and you feel sad that you don’t have that life, un-follow that person and LET THAT SH*T GO. No offense to them but you don’t have time to wish for someone else’s life, you only have time to wish for your own life and live it fabulously to the best of your abilities.
Everyone is on a journey and no two journeys are the same. Your journey is an original, don’t live a copycat life.